Someone once said to me, "Men are like tiles, if you lay them correctly the first time around, you can walk over them for the rest of your life, no interruptions, no renovations." While it seems like a solid idea, I'd like to add that some men don't need to be walked on, but walked with. Like a fence that never ever ends and you can walk along it for miles and days. A companion rather than a stepping stone or carpet.
1. Most ladies prefer men who are sweet, loving, caring, supportive, attentive and handsome all at once, and if they can't get that combination in one man, they aren't shy to be with 2 or 3 guys at a time and together all the men make one great guy. I reckon, instead of a recipe, think of one quality you can't possibly live without, ensure that you get that one and let everything else be an unpredictable journey of discovery. You'd be surprised to find that some things in men that frustrate you, aren't frustrating because he's a bad guy, but they frustrate you because you don't know how to cope with them. So here's the solution, instead of dumping him and running for your life (unless he uses you as a punching bag), analyse the problem and acquire the skills necessary to cope with it and move on to the next issue. Because there are quite a few...
2. Most relationships are between humans. Humans make mistakes. Therefore, his mistakes aren't greater than yours, you're just better at nagging about his mistakes, than he is at nagging about yours. So with our mistakes being equal, let forgiveness be sought and awarded in the same way. Same transgression, same punishment- for consistency. Nobody needs to work harder than the other, although extra effort will always be given extra credit and extra rewards.... *wink*
3. Guys, as much as sometimes its sweet to be told that I am better than your last girlfriend because of this and that, comparing is just annoying. If I am that great at doing my job, how is she still on your mind so often? Also, you can only compare similar things otherwise its unfair. We are not and never will be the same, so don't compare me to her. Also, no complaints which start with the words, "my last girlfriend used to..." If she was so great, why aren't you with her now? Don't compare our relationship to your friends' relationships. There are different dynamics which work for them and make their union work which won't necessarily work for us because of our uniqueness. For all you know they are together as a business transaction. If you want to swop, I am game, but while you want to be with me, work on making us better and stop wanting us to be a duplicate of them.
4. There is a difference between suggestions, instructions and commands. I am not your child and although I am your girlfriend, I am not really your property so you are in no position to command or instruct me. Suggestions are welcomed though. By the way, because we are both human, we both have hands. If I can wash dishes, so can you. So lets treat this like what it is: a partnership. If I cook, you wash the dishes. If I do the laundry, the least you can do is pack the clothes in their rightful places. At no point am I supposed to be working my ass of while you chill. And don't make excuses pertaining to how hard you worked all day. I had my fair share of struggles all day long too. Its all about being empathetic and considerate. Your presence is supposed to make my life easier, not make me miss my single days. Ladies, same principle. A man with a partner cannot be the same as one on his own- and you create the difference.
5. Ladies, don't shout at guys, no matter what. Silence achieves the same result as shouting does, except you are less drained afterwards. Contrary to popular belief, guys aren't really partially-deaf wild animals so they can understand human language spoken in a normal tone at a normal volume.
6. Guys and girls, calm down on taking advice from friends who live their lives through yours. If you were to take a minute to consider the people who advise you, most of them are single, in terrible relationships or just not worth mentioning. So what qualifies them to advise you on your relationship? Think carefully before you take advice and make it your relationship's survival guide. Also, intentions are invisible. Actions aren't. Don't just say and think and feel what you mean, try showing it. Most partners cannot read minds.
7. One last thing, not all qualities come with the product when you purchase it. Some things are learnt along the way. So if things aren't excellent at first, work hard at improving them and give the change some time to take place.
Enough said, for now- play nicely...
Class dismissed
