More and more people's lives are driven by the pursuit of happiness in the form of money, success, recognition and romance or "love". Meanwhile, more and more, people like me are becoming highly annoyed with this retarded pursuit and wondering what the point is. Money pays the bills. Success and recognition provide satisfaction and a sense of fulfilment after all the hard work it takes to achieve these. "Love" ...um... "love "does what again?
I have had my fair share of relationships and everything from minor crushes to heart wrenching emotional attachments and dependancies on significant others. So far I can summarise my experience as one which brought momentary joy, emotional drain, excitement, unbelievable amounts of stress and mental exhaustion in addition to the large amounts of insecurities raised by some of the advice and comments I have recieved from the people I have been with. Basically it has done more harm than good, because at the end of it all, I either get hurt or hurt someone.
So what is the point? "To find someone to marry", some say, "To not end up alone", says another. "To have someone to share your life with", "to have a special bond with someone, an emotional connection", I've been told. But truly, what is so wrong with being on your own? I mean its not like you don't have friends and family and other things. "Love", well, that type of love, is not everything. What is it that a romantic "love" relationship can achieve, (besides sex), that cannot be achieved one's interactions with cousins, nieces, nephews, uncles, aunts, parents, best friends, other friends, acquaintances, alcohol-for some, and food?
So here is what I propose. "Love" is just a reason for people to justify their dissatisfaction with themselves and their lives. A reason for them to continue searching, for something which is either all around them or not there at all, either way, there is no need to search for it. A reason for them to fill the silence in their lives with a familiar voice. A reason to avoid self discovery and instead, get to know the other person better. A reason to turn their backs on their flaws by pointing out the flaws of another. A reason to depend on someone other than themselves, blame someone other than their own being for the wrong which have nothing to do with the person facing the blame. A way to fish for compliments and seek for affection as a reward for the affection they too have shown by means of words, gifts and actions. An excuse for public displays of affection, which are all actually a cover up for the loneliness and insecurity the people displaying this affection actually feel. A means to avoid being sellfish because they have been led to believe that it is wrong. A means to distract oneself from the truths one should be facing by fabricating pleasant looking, soothing lies. A reason to never face life or its battles on your own.
"Love" is not neccesary. "love" is unpredictable. "Love" is conditional. Love hurts. It is one of those things you can die for and live without. Babies are born one by one, even twins. A coffin only has space for one person. Why waste time finding someone you will spend so much learingin to live with, only to spend just as much time learning how to live without? You were born alone and will die alone. I reckon you should get used to the company.
I may be wrong, and I may feel differently tomorrow, but I know that I am not the only one.
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